I Found Out My Date Was Only in It for My Money, Here’s What I Did
In my home studio spa, where the wax is warm and the conversations flow freely, I hear some of the most intriguing stories. It’s a space where my clients feel comfortable sharing their lives, and sometimes, the tales they tell are so compelling, they linger in my mind long after the appointment is over. One such story was shared with me by a client who learned the hard way that not all dates are about finding love—sometimes, they’re about something much less sincere.
Her story is one of self-discovery, resilience, and the unexpected strength that comes from realizing your own worth. As we chatted during her waxing session, she opened up about a dating experience that took her on a whirlwind journey, ultimately leading her to a place of empowerment and self-focus. Here’s how it all unfolded and what she did when she discovered her date was only interested in her for her money.
A Promising Start
My client, let’s call her Sarah, had been single for a while. Like many of us, she was cautiously optimistic about dipping her toes back into the dating pool. When she matched with Chris on a dating app, she thought she had finally met someone with potential. Chris was charming, attentive, and seemed genuinely interested in her life. Their conversations were filled with laughter and shared interests, and after a few weeks of chatting, they decided to meet in person.
Their first date was everything Sarah had hoped for. They went to a trendy restaurant downtown, where they enjoyed good food, engaging conversation, and plenty of chemistry. Chris was generous, insisting on picking up the tab. He made her feel special and important, and by the end of the night, Sarah was convinced that she had found someone who could be a significant part of her life.
As their relationship progressed, Chris became a fixture in her life. He was attentive, showered her with compliments, and always had grand plans for their future together. However, as time went on, subtle red flags began to appear.
The Red Flags
Sarah started noticing small, unsettling details. Chris was always talking about luxurious things—expensive vacations, designer clothes, fancy dinners—but he never seemed to have the means to enjoy these things himself. He would frequently mention financial struggles and how unfortunate it was that he couldn’t afford the lifestyle he dreamed of. At first, Sarah brushed it off as casual conversation, but the more he talked, the more it seemed like he was hinting at something.
Then, he started to make suggestions that were increasingly lavish and financially demanding. He would propose weekend getaways to luxury resorts, dining at the most expensive restaurants, and even talked about how “nice” it would be to own a specific high-end car. Whenever Sarah hesitated or suggested something more modest, he would play the disappointment card, making her feel as if she was denying them the experience of a lifetime.
The Turning Point
The real turning point came one evening when they were out for dinner at a high-end restaurant. During the meal, Chris casually mentioned how he was behind on some payments and how stressful it was. Sarah, being the kind-hearted person she is, offered to help him out. It wasn’t a huge sum of money to her, and she thought it was what you do when you’re in a relationship—you support each other. Chris seemed grateful, and for a while, everything was fine.
But then, it happened again. And again. Chris always had an excuse—a car repair, a sudden bill, a “once-in-a-lifetime” investment opportunity. Sarah found herself shelling out more and more money, all while he made grand promises of paying her back or making it up to her. The relationship had shifted from being about mutual enjoyment and support to Sarah feeling like she was being financially drained.
The Revelation
One day, during one of our waxing sessions, Sarah laid it all out for me. She was starting to feel uneasy, used even. It was as if a light bulb had finally turned on, and she realized what was happening—Chris was in it for the money. He had been manipulating her kindness and generosity for his financial gain. The “relationship” was built on the idea that she could provide him with the lifestyle he desired without him having to put in the effort himself.
Hearing this, I could see the mix of emotions on her face—anger, sadness, and a sense of betrayal. But there was also a glimmer of realization, the kind that comes when you finally see a situation for what it truly is. She knew what she had to do next.
Taking Back Control
Sarah decided to confront Chris. She invited him over to her place, where they sat down for a serious conversation. She calmly explained that she had realized what was going on and that their relationship had become more about what she could provide for him rather than a genuine partnership. Chris, of course, tried to deny it, but the evidence was clear. She had kept track of the money she had lent him, the extravagant dates, and the constant financial “emergencies” he seemed to have.
When she laid it all out, he didn’t have much of a defense. The charming, attentive man she thought she knew turned defensive and angry. He accused her of being untrusting and selfish. But Sarah stood her ground. She realized that his anger was just another manipulation tactic, a way to make her feel guilty and to keep her under his control.
For the first time in a long time, Sarah chose herself. She ended the relationship, blocking him on every platform and cutting off all communication. It was difficult—breaking free from someone who had been such a big part of her life—but she knew it was necessary. She wasn’t just reclaiming her financial independence; she was reclaiming her self-worth.
What I Did and How It Changed Me
Listening to Sarah’s story reminded me of my own journey. In my past, I had also fallen into the trap of investing time and energy into relationships that weren’t truly fulfilling, sometimes losing sight of my own needs and goals in the process. But like Sarah, I reached a turning point where I decided to shift my focus.
I stopped putting my energy into people who didn’t value me for who I was. Instead, I redirected that energy into something that truly mattered—building my business. I knew that by focusing on my own growth and success, I would not only become financially independent but also create the life I truly wanted. It was then that I started working on my home studio spa, pouring my passion into every aspect of it, from the services I offered to the meaningful conversations I had with my clients.
By focusing on my business and my personal growth, I not only found fulfillment in my work but also created a stable foundation for myself. I realized that the right person would come along eventually, but until then, I was determined to be my own source of happiness and security.
How You Can Start a Business and Take Control
If you find yourself in a similar situation where you’re feeling drained or undervalued, know that you have the power to take control of your life. One of the most empowering ways to do this is by starting your own business. Becoming financially independent and building something that belongs entirely to you can give you the confidence and strength to live life on your terms.
You might be thinking, “But starting a business is hard and time-consuming.” And yes, it can be, but it doesn’t have to be. One of the easiest ways to start is by tapping into the world of digital products—specifically, selling ebooks. I’ve created a series of done-for-you ebooks that are ready to be sold, covering everything from how to become a successful waxer, how to do eyelash extensions, to how to sell journals or coloring books on Amazon (see them here). These ebooks come with a license to resell, so you can start making money right away.
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By investing in these done-for-you ebooks, you’re not just buying a product—you’re buying a ticket to financial freedom and self-empowerment. You can sell these ebooks as your own, keeping 100% of the profits. It’s a business in a box, allowing you to generate income while you focus on building the life you deserve.
Sarah’s story is a reminder that sometimes, we have to go through difficult situations to find our strength. She realized that her worth wasn’t tied to how much she could give to someone else but rather to how much she could give to herself. By taking back control and focusing on her own life, she found the empowerment she needed to move forward.
I made a similar choice in my life, and it was the best decision I ever made. I stopped focusing on the wrong people and instead started building my business, which has given me not only financial independence but also a sense of purpose and fulfillment. If you’re ready to take control of your life, starting a business could be the first step.
And remember, you don’t have to do it alone. With my done-for-you ebooks and the “Digital CEO” guide, you have all the tools you need to start your own online business. You can break free from situations that don’t serve you and build something that brings you joy, success, and independence. The journey starts with a single step, and that step could be the beginning of the life you’ve always dreamed of.
